Fine Lines—Just Walk ‘Em

This week I found myself thinking a lot about fine lines. While walking the fine line is a tired cliché, the words paint a clear picture that fits with my current mindset. Imagine a child following a thin shadow line down the sidewalk step by careful step, a little wobbly, yet just making that next move forward one small shoe at a time.

Here are a few of my fine lines. Can you relate?

Trust myself. Yes, I need advice. On many topics. Being a kind wife and a focused mother, keeping strong finances, crafting an engaging story, and editing and tightening my articles. Other people ahead in the journey offer wisdom I haven’t gained and skills I haven’t mastered. But I need to listen with my ears open and decide with my heart closed. I can seek out opinions and that’s what I’m going to get—opinions. There may be a small percentage of truth in even the worst advice and I try to find it. But then I need to come back home, close the door, and sift through the information alone. In my heart, I will find what’s right for me.

Love my book. If I’m not madly in love with my story, why should anyone else be? But I can’t love it so much I close my ears to solid advice. That’s a fine line if I ever saw one! Love it, but let it go. Still working that one out!




Release my children. No, not into the wild, but my natural inclination to yell “duck and cover,” throw my body over my kids, and protect them from the world may not grow them into the people I want them to be. The statement, “This hurts me more than it hurts you,” finally makes sense now that I’m striding in my mother’s slippers. When my kids hurt, I ache. I’d do anything for my little and not so little people. But that may damage them the most. Failure is the first step to success. And to endurance. Real life requires both.



Set myself apart. As a Christian, I am to be different. Set apart. A light in the dark. But if I lock myself in a brightly lit room, how will I know if my light is on? I need to step into the dark and check my batteries. I also need to remember the point of my light isn’t to clear the room; it’s to provide a safe warm place for people to come together and support each other. I need to remember, “But the greatest of these is LOVE” (I Cor. 13:13 NIV emphasis mine). But means stop and go the other direction. I can sit and judge others all day. I’m not winning anyone to Christ that way. Relationship over ranting. I can do that one!

What fine lines are you walking today? Leave a comment and share! I love to hear from you!

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  1. My fine line is between balancing on my writing and all other activities outside of work. Sometimes, it seems like I have to completely ignore one to do the other.

    • Lori Freeland |

      I agree. I need to turn off my internet and put my earbuds in to write my book. I am easily distracted. I struggle with the kids, too. I’m still actively homeschooling Maddy. She’s sitting next to me now wanting me to do her math. Even though its a review! In the middle of editing a chapter last night, Alek ask me to microwave him some chicken strips last night because,”they taste better when you do it.” Right. It’s about the attention not the poultry.

  2. My fine lineS seem overwhelming at the moment. I must narrow (or expand) my focus and make each day count.

    This morning, I feel as if I’m living in a cobweb of fine lines. What deserves/demands my attention? Which is most important?

    Great, thought-provoking post, Lori. DO NO HARM tops the list every day. Now, I’m off to get my planner, so I can put the tasks on paper and decide which hats need to be worn today. Which worries can be turned over to Him. And, which can be slotted for another day.

  3. Fine lineZ. Well, there are the ones deepening around my eyes, but they are meant to show I’ve gained a little wisdom. Or done a whole lot of squinting. Your pick.

    Currently, I’m taking Kristen Lamb’s Blogging To Build Brand online class. I know I need to be present on social media so that when my next book is released, I have a platform. Spend too much time building the platform, and it will be all in vain as there will be no book.

    • Lori Freeland |

      I pick wisdom. Kind of like the lines on my stomach from having three kids. A badge of honor. Or maybe a need for plastic surgery :)
      I agree with the social media. It’s important, but you have to have something to promote. I’m struggling there too. Sometimes blogging is more fun. And quicker. And has more instant gratification!

  4. Every day I walk a fine line of balancing my family, my church & my writing. When my oldest daughter married, the pastor counseled them that marriage wasn’t a 50-50 proposition, it was a 100-100 deal. So, it is with me. I must give 100% to God, to my husband & to my writing. Fine line, indeed. Thanks, Lori, for a wonderful, truthful post.

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