Distractions Kill

Distractions Kill.

Okay. Not literally. Unless we’re talking about texting and driving. But that’s another post.

Constant commitments. Dizzying distractions. Time takers. All are relationship killers. Lack of time, quality or otherwise, crumbles even the best of unions–with your spouse, your kids, your family, your friends, even the barista at the local Starbucks.

Busyness seems to be bred into our lives whether we’re college students, employees, or parents. There are phases in our life when we need to pull back, undercommit, take a break. Feed our marriages, our children, our friends. And there are phases when we can’t. We don’t always have a choice how we spend our hours.

So what can we do?

Five ways to buy yourself some understanding. And maybe a little time.

1. Working til three am to get everything done? Go to bed at eleven, just one night. With your spouse. And don’t sleep.

2. Buy your son a cake pop at Starbucks when you drive through for coffee. Even if it’s eight in the morning. Then look deep into his eyes and say, “I haven’t forgotten you exist.” If he cracks a grin, however slight, you’ve bought another day.

3. Return at least one out of the six of the twenty-minute messages your mother left on voicemail during the week. Remember what she said and ask her about specifics.

4. Text your friends. Send them an email. Post to Facebook. Apologize. Apologize. Apologize. And promise chocolate.

5. Tip the barista who knows how you like your coffee and asks about your dog–even if you don’t have time to tell him. Take a second to smile back.

And promise the ones you love, who have pledged to love you back, this phase won’t last forever. And then remember to keep your word.


  1. Hey friend!
    Do I owe you chocolate? :)
    I sure do miss chatting with you!

  2. Keep the good great advice and encouragement coming! There is a light at the end of the tunnel!

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