Guest Room

guest room“Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling.”

1 Peter 4:9 NIV




When I was nineteen, my dad decided to call quits on his twenty-five year marriage. Even though he told my sister and me he was divorcing our mom, not us, that’s not exactly the way our lives played out.

The day he left, he packed his stuff, drove out of state, and settled in with the woman who’d asked him to leave. Widowed with two small boys, she convinced him to marry her and adopt her kids and raise them as his own. Over that year, his infrequent trips to see my sister and I dwindled to zero.

I loved my dad. Up until he left, we’d been close. Determined to keep some kind of relationship, I asked if I could come visit him and his new wife. There was a lot of hesitation on his end. Despite our back-and-forth on weekends that didn’t work with his schedule, I pressed him to settle on a day and drove the three hours to his new house.

When I got there, he was waiting for me. Alone. After a few awkward false starts, we shared a meal and got more comfortable.

Until New Wife came home.

Not only did she barely spare me a glance, she changed out of her work clothes and left for the evening. While she was gone, her kids and I watched movies while my dad worked in his home office. The boys were sweet. New Wife? Not so much.

Later that night, New Wife finally returned and zipped past me again. After she tucked her boys in, she stood at the top of the stairs and yelled to my dad to come to bed.

“Night.” My dad got up from his recliner and headed toward the stairs.

A little panic set in. “Umm…” I looked at my suitcase, still sitting where I’d dropped it in the entryway next to my shoes.

“Oh.” He turned from the top of the stairway. “You’re sleeping in one of the boy’s room.” He pointed behind him to a closed door. Then he went to bed.

I picked up my bag and went to the room where he’d pointed.

The bed had been slept in, the top and bottom sheets left rumpled and far from clean. There was no pillow. No blanket. No welcome.

My chest caved and I fell to the floor next to that unmade bed and cried. After sleeping in my clothes, using my jacket for a pillow, I got up the next morning and drove home.

What I didn’t realize was that earlier that year New Wife had given him an ultimatum—his old family or his new one.

You can guess which family he picked.

That awful awkward night I spent in my dad’s house stayed with me. So did the chest-crushing realization that I was unwanted and unwelcome.

Now I have a house of my own. With a guest room.

I make sure the bed is always made, the sheets are always clean, and there are enough pillows for five. I’ve painted the walls a warm burgundy and placed a lamp and photographs on the nightstand. My hope is that everything about that room shouts—You’re wanted. You’re welcome. Come back anytime.


I never want to make anyone feel the way I did the night I visited New Wife and my dad.

In our busy, demanding world, it’s easy to get distracted. To forget our words and actions can linger in someone’s heart years after they’ve been said and done.

Are you welcoming to those around you?

Making others feel wanted doesn’t have to include the offer of a clean guest room. It could be a meal, a hug, a word of encouragement, a smile, a phone call. Even a text that shows you care.

In God’s economy, a few seconds of focused kindness can shape a lifetime’s worth of value. You matter. And so does the time you take to care for the people God’s put in your life.

“Anyone who welcomes you welcomes me,

and anyone who welcomes me welcomes the one who sent me.”

Matthew 10:40


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  1. Wow. This is such an inspired post. What a wonderful way to turn a personal tragedy into a wonderful lesson. All things happen for a reason and make us the person we are. And you, my dear, are lovely.

  2. I wish I could offer you a platitude to made you feel better about the suffering that produced a perseverant character in you ala Romans. While I believe that is true, I also know that it does not take away the pain. The actions of the man who called himself your father were simply wrong, atrocious, and without defense. His actions are nothing more than profound selfishness and a willingness to violate his most sacred trust to his wife and duty to his children. But the light in this story is you. You moved on. Built a trusting relationship with a husband despite your father’s cowardly example of betrayal. Built a family of good children, well raised, despite his example of abandonment. And above all you built a life of loving others, despite his lack of real love. He was not a worthy father. But you have become a worthy mother, a compassionate friend, and person of quality.

  3. Oh, Lori. I love reading your post and getting to know you better. You write very well, and although some of your messages make me sad, I still love your writing. I wish I could hug you. I pray for your strength and happiness, dear Lori.

    You have given me an additional idea for my new guest room. We are adding 2-new bedrooms to our home, so after all these years, I’ll have an empty room, our guest room. I pledge to follow your lead – a warm inviting, welcoming guest room.

    Thank you so much!
    Hugs!!!!! Cherrye

  4. Andrea Hancock |

    Lori, my heart breaks for you. Your writing puts me sitting right next to you on the floor of a little boys room feeling unwelcome and unwanted. How could a father who raised you for 19 years do that? You have such a sweet and welcoming personality. Your father is missing out on a relationship with his wonderful daughter. I pray that someday he will see that!

  5. So sad. HUGS!! The room you’ve made sounds delightful and I’m sure is full of joy and welcome.

  6. Turning heartache into a positive lesson – you have done this beautifully!

  7. Lovely stories, of love, and forgiveness, I want to receive your letters.

  8. Thank you for this powerful inspirational post. You have bless me.

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